These next couple of months will be a time of much growth for me as a musician. In addition to my own 3-city mini-tour in May, I will also be singing backing vocals for my label-mate and friend Melissa Giges at a concert here in New York. Plus, in June I’ll be taking the stage with another artist and close friend of mine. Lots of cool stuff, for which I am already learning valuable new skills!
Now that I’m starting to collaborate with other artists, I’m realizing how little of that I’ve actually done in my 20-year career in the music business. I was very isolated before, both in my life and my career, but I am decisively changing that now, as I am finally in full control of my lifework… It is really fun now to feel like my label-mates are also becoming a kind of chosen family for me. We all help each other out in each others’ projects, and I think we are all growing rapidly from the collaborations.
I was speaking to a successful artist-friend of mine last summer about how hard it is to become close friends with other artists. The separation had always been each of our experience, and together we were wondering why that was: jealousy, competition, what? In my case, I’ve found some answers now, almost a year later. In learning to trust myself and my personal boundaries more and more, I am increasingly willing myself to let people get closer to me. So my problem wasn’t really with other artists, it was with people in general.
Yes, many of us creative types come from challenging family-backgrounds and that may create complicated personality traits. But I’ve found that once I started working on my own “character defects”, making friends and getting closer to other people, artists or non-artists, has become easier all the time. Thus, I am now able to tap into a highly precious resource: collaborations..! My theme for today is conveniently dramatized below in a scene from Bugs Bunny:
Elmer Fudd: “There’s something screwy around here!”
Bugs Bunny: “Eh, could be you, Doc.“